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A Monday Meander

Leaning towards each other in the stormy light.


The typical, well-meaning liberal approach to solving social tensions is to treat every value as equal, and then try to force a leveling or redistribution of resources (money, rights, goods, land) while leaving the values untouched. The typical conservative approach is take its particular values and try to foist them on everybody else. The developmental approach is to realize that there are many different values and worldviews; that some are more complex than others; that many of the problems at one stage of development can only be defused by evolving to a higher level; and that only by recognizing and facilitating this evolution can social justice be finally served.

~ Ken Wilber, Integral Psychology: Consciusness, Spirit, Psychology, Therapy 

Fawn, a collage of sky and earth.

I am not sure what to think about anything anymore.  Some days I can’t figure out how we got to this time and place in the world, some days I think I can clearly see how we got here, and other days things are so surreal that I’m almost positive I somehow stepped into another dimension, one in which the paths taken are so different from what I know and remember that they must have been walked by a me from another timeline where things diverged when I made a contrary choice about some small matter and well, here we are.  A butterfly flapped its wings and the inevitable change happened.  I’m sure I’m not the only person feeling this way.


As we get older, and if we’re fortunate and privileged, life begins to teach us about letting go.  I suppose it is in preparation for the big Let-Go.  Maybe it starts with wanting to simplify your life or, if you have children, with the empty nest and downsizing.  Then life itself takes a hand in the shedding process by removing people who raised us or were part of the raising of us.  If the timing is as we think it should be, first the older folks leave us.  Eventually, we begin to lose acquaintances and colleagues and friends.

A fox runs by. (This was taken just before dark, when the light was terrible, but at least you can tell it is a fox.)

Life pares us down.  Our elders go through it.  Maybe we pay attention when a grandparent says, “I’m not sure why I’m still here,” and realize what they mean is that their parents are gone, their siblings are gone, their spouse is gone, and all their friends, too, have gone on before them.  It is more likely that we don’t pay too much attention because we’re young and busy and still think we’re immortal (or at least don’t want to acknowledge that death is always with us).

Another terrible picture of a beautiful fox.

Just as compassion is the wish that all sentient beings be free of suffering, loving-kindness is the wish that all may enjoy happiness. As with compassion, when cultivating loving-kindness it is important to start by taking a specific individual as a focus of our meditation, and we then extend the scope of our concern further and further, to eventually encompass and embrace all sentient beings. Again, we begin by taking a neutral person, a person who inspires no strong feelings in us, as our object of meditation. We then extend this meditation to individual friends and family members and, ultimately, our particular enemies.

We must use a real individual as the focus of our meditation, and then enhance our compassion and loving-kindness toward that person so that we can really experience compassion and loving-kindness toward others. We work on one person at a time.

~ Dalai Lama XIV

As we approach autumn, I’ve been thinking about my word for the year:  Loving-kindness.  I’ve been doing a loving-kindness or metta practice almost daily throughout the year.  I start, as suggested by many, with myself.  May I be free from harm.  May I be happy.  May I be healthy.  May I awaken.  May my heart be open to the infinite possibilities of love and life.  May I dwell in peace.  Or words to that effect.  I extend that to friends, family, those I love.  I extend it further to acquaintances, the waitress at the restaurant where we had dinner last night, the cashier at the grocery store, Fay the mail lady, the neighbor I’ve seen on walks but not yet met.  And then there is the true work of extending it to those who have harmed or angered or, as the Dalai Lama puts it, “our particular enemies.”  On the days when my heart is open and I feel I can truly extend this loving-kindness to those I strongly dislike, I find myself feeling pity and wonder if pity is a form of compassion (the dictionary claims this is so), if maybe pity is the best I can dig up for certain people in high places, or am I failing at compassion, failing at loving-kindness?

Sunrise and the long shadows of late August.

How was your weekend?  M and I had a relatively quiet but celebratory weekend.  The 41st anniversary of our wedding was yesterday.  We went for a bicycle ride in the morning, worked outside for a little while in the afternoon, and then lounged around in the pool to relax and cool off.  The weather was gorgeous.  Not too hot.  Just warm enough that you could still call it August.

We went out for dinner, up to Princess Anne for a small feast at The Washington Inn and Tavern, built in 1744 and renovated and reopened last year (or maybe it was the year before?).  They have what they call the Sunday Supper Menu, somewhat limited but wonderful choices.  Their menu is seasonal, the food sourced locally if possible.  I had a cup of delicious gazpacho for a starter.  M had the shrimp and grits.  Our entrees were the fish and chips for me, the chicken pot pie for M, but it really doesn’t matter who ordered what since we end up sharing.  Everything was very good, including the service by the waitress/bartender who took care of us.  If you’re in the Princess Anne area, stop by for lunch or dinner.  I think you’ll enjoy it.

Mama deer (Little Doe) at sunrise.

Other random things:  Today I finished the unpacking from our last trip.  I was a little slow getting to it, always finding something else to do instead.  Unpacking doesn’t come with the same level of excitement that packing does.  I don’t think we’ll be traveling again for a while so it’s time to put the suitcases back in the attic.  We do have friends planning visits next month, something I am looking forward to.

There is also a tropical system (if named, it will be Irma) on its way up towards us.  Nothing like what they are seeing in Texas with Harvey.  According to the latest forecast, we’ll get some wind (up to 30 mph)  and rain (1-2 inches) from it, probably riptides and big waves at the beach.  Some of the last storms that blew through here were worse than that.  Still, I keep an eye on the forecast because things can change so quickly.  Today started out nice enough.  By lunchtime it was cloudy and windy.  Potential Tropical Cyclone Ten will skirt by here sometime tomorrow if the latest forecast is correct.  There is another tropical wave a few hundred miles southeast of the Cabo Verde Islands that they expect will form into a tropical depression in the next 48 hours or so.  It’s too soon to tell where that one will go or how big it will grow (if it grows at all).

Salt marsh mallows, currently in bloom here on the southern section of the Eastern Shore.

It is day 57 of my year-long challenge to better my health through nutrition, yoga, meditation, and exercise (also known as All The Right Things or self-care).  There is not much new to report in that area.  I’ve had what I think of as slippery days (yesterday’s fish and chips, for example), but that’s okay.  This is not a sprint and I’m not looking for perfection.  Just a healthier way of living and being.  Just.  lol!  It really is a tall order, rearranging one’s lifestyle.  I do feel better for it which often makes me wonder why it is so easy to slide back into less healthful ways of living and being.  You would think the pleasure of good health would override the pleasure of old habits, but it doesn’t seem to during the beginning phases.

As part of the transition into autumn, I will be doing a 5-day at-home retreat of sorts that will include five days of a fast-mimicking diet.  I’ve already experimented with something similar to a fast-mimicking diet, and it was amazing how light and wonderful I felt after just a few days.  Did I ever share the article about fasting with you?  I think I did but just in case, here’s the link again.  It’s well worth a look-see.  If you’re interested in joining along with me and holding your own at-home retreat, let me know.  Maybe we can get a group thing started.  I’m looking at putting together a schedule of activities for the five days, setting aside time for journaling, art, reading, yoga, meditation, and walks.  Left to my own devices, I’m more likely to play it by ear (and possibly not do many of those things).  The plan, for now, is to hold my little at-home retreat the week of September 25th.

A barn beyond the marsh.

I reckon that’s enough from me and the Wabi-Sabi Ranch on this cloudy Monday.  I don’t think we’ll see the sunset this evening (which is scheduled for 7:38 PM).  It’s not worth the trip to the Point, but we could go out to the dock and listen to the birds, watch the terrapins and crabs swim by, and just enjoy the beauty of the scenery for a while.  The wind will keep us cool and insect-free.  I’ll meet you out there around 7 PM.

Be good, be kind, be loving.  Just Be.  🙂

As seen on yesterday’s bicycle ride.

A few of the 10,000 reasons to be happy:  261)  The twins’ morning visit.  I did not see the mama deer today.  I wonder if it was time to let them go on their own?  262)  Wildflowers blooming in the meadows and salt marshes.  263)  Beets, greens, and other fresh, wonderful vegetables.  264)  Anniversary celebrations, bicycle rides, and time with M.  It’s been a wonderful adventure thus far.  265)  Smiles, laughter, and moments of pure joy.

A bouquet of wildflowers in the marsh.


Robin is... too many things to list, but here is a start: an artist and writer; a photographer and saunterer; a daughter and sister and granddaughter; a friend, a partner, a wife, a mother, and a grandmother; a gardener, a great and imaginative cook, and the creator of wonderful sandwiches.

25 thoughts on “A Monday Meander

  1. I believe that, just as there are people who will not accept being loved and do all they can to destroy relationships, there are people who rebuff any attempts to be given loving kindness by their failure to demonstrate any. Sometimes kindness, like respect, needs to be earned. I’ve run out of understanding and generous forgiveness.

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  2. Robin, you always seem to so eloquently express the feelings I have about so much in our world today. And then you brighten it with the beauty of the pictures, the joy of celebrations and the reminders of how to be. I enjoy these meanders so very much and am grateful to you for offering them. 💕

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    1. Thank you so much, Carrie. 🙂 There are days when it feels like there is so much negative energy out in the world that I feel a need to somehow counterbalance, to remember that there is still so much beauty and joy in life.

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  3. Happy anniversary Robin and M! We have the same year in common!!!

    These are unquestionably challenging times for us as individuals and as a culture. Meeting the challenge involved respectful tolerance and legitimate kindness …. and yes, meeting those is a tough challenge … and let’s face it … some people make that even more of a challenge.

    Aging is a strange feeling … and you hit on many of the feelings I sense.

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    1. Thank you, Frank. 🙂 I thought we did (have the same year in common), but wasn’t sure.
      Challenging is a good word for it. Or interesting (as in “May you live in interesting times”). Ageing, too, is a challenge. I am beginning to think the baby boomer generation (which I am at the very tail-end of) is failing when it comes to the realities of ageing.

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  4. Happy anniversary to both. 41 that’s an achievement in itself. We’ve made it to 32 this year.
    Life changes are surprisingly hard aren’t they, especially when they’re good for you. But I know just what you mean about slipping back too easily to old ways.
    I seem to appreciate how I feel when I put the effort in, but once I start to feel good I get a little lapse at putting the effort in again. 😀

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    1. Thank you, Sallyann. And Happy 32 to you and your husband! 🙂
      It does become harder after a little lapse. It’s almost like starting over again. Ah well. It’s all part of the peaks and valleys of life.

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  5. Happy Anniversary, Robin! It sounds like you had a lovely celebration.
    Yes, this year has been disquieting.
    The aging thing–I know my mom feels this way–her only and younger sibling dead, as well as her parents, of course, many of her cousins, my dad, and all of her old friends . . .
    The weather here has been glorious the last few days, but not we have rain–I suppose the same system you are getting. And I’m back to work!
    Stunning photos, as always! 🙂

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    1. Thank you, Merril. 🙂 It’s turning into a glorious day here today now that the clouds are parting and the sun is coming out. I’m loving the cooler days. Fingers crossed that Irma fizzles out somewhere in the Atlantic.

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  6. Happy anniversary to you two!
    You always hit the rights points. The descriptions on aging feel so bang on. My brother-in-law’s grand-mother, who died at 102, kept asking why she was still left behind. That there was no real reason for her to stick around… I guess there comes a point that grand and great-grand children are not enough…
    Beautiful photos as usual!

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    1. Thank you, Dale. 🙂 I wondered about grandchildren and great-grandchildren. For now, while I can still interact and play with my grandchildren, it does seem enough to have the future generation(s) around, but I haven’t lost all of my peers, either. That might make a difference. I don’t know.

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  7. Happy Anniversary to you both! A notable achievement, so much shared, entwined and melded, you become as one. I admire your healing practice of loving kindness and healthy-based lifestyle. Your honest approach is comfortably human! 🙂
    Amazing stigmas on the salt marsh mallows. They’re the Cyrano de Bergerac of the Malva family. 😉

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    1. lol! Yes, the do have long “noses,” Eliza. I should try to get some perspective on the size of the salt marsh mallow flowers. They’re relatively small for such big stigmas.

      Thank you. 🙂

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  8. Robin, thank you for sharing your thoughts and reflections. I do, often now, wonder how we gotten to where we are as a society…as well as contemplate my own mortality. My mother passed at 53 and so, at 40, the other side feels as though it could truly, at any time, be just around the bend. I find comfort in that only because I am constantly reminded that now, this moment, is all we truly have and so it is my job to make the most of it. Don’t worry, though, I have miles to go before I sleep and intend on living at least another 50 years ( 😉 ) ! And I wonder about what our world might look like in 5, 10, or 50 years. Such musings.

    Happy Anniversary! May you be blessed with many, mnay more ❤

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    1. Thank you so much, Melissa. 🙂 I’m glad to hear your have plans to be around a while. The world needs people like you who are willing to reflect and muse. 😀


  9. Happy belated 41st anniversary. It sounds like you have an idyllic life out on the Eastern Shore. It’s good you can be somewhat removed from the current political situation, although even when I was Japan, I was still getting outraged by everything I was reading in the news. I don’t know how we got to this point either. I was welcomed home by that debacle in Charlottesville, 2 hours from here, the weekend after I returned from Japan, a culture where people treat each other with respect and bow to each other in nearly every interaction. We could learn a few things from the Japanese. Nice to catch up with you briefly, Robin. 🙂

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    1. Thank you, Cathy. 🙂 I wondered how far you were from Charlottesville. “Debacle” is a good word for it. I think we could stand to learn a few things from the Japanese, too. I started watching NHK news because I found it more calming than the usual news outlets. They just report it without alarms, bells, whistles, and outraged opinions. Or at least that’s the case with what they show on the PBS channel here.


      1. That’s good to get your news from a source that isn’t so alarming! I try to READ most of my news from reputable sources, certainly not the right-wing ones! I really hate seeing the talking heads on American news channels, and I absolutely refuse to watch our president speak on TV! My blood boils whenever I see his face or hear his voice.


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