If this is coffee, please bring me some tea; but if this is tea, please bring me some coffee.
~ Abraham Lincoln
If we were having coffee, I’d probably be having tea. I don’t drink much coffee. Most mornings I have about a half cup of the dark, bitter stuff just before I exercise. I never have acquired a taste for coffee, and usually let it cool and then chug it down as quickly as possible. Why do I drink it at all? All those studies that say it’s good for the body (and mind) have influenced me. (You can find 7 Reasons here.) Plus that jolt of energy just before exercising helps me work out a little harder. I can be a lazy exerciser if left to my own, uncaffeinated, devices.
If we were having coffee (and/or tea), I’d tell you how much I appreciate you stopping by to have coffee with me. I would ask you how you’re doing. How’s your weekend been? What have you been up to lately?
If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I don’t find it easy to take it easy. It’s been four days since I had surgery and I want to be back to normal right now. Oh, I know it doesn’t work that way. The problem is I am not patient with illness and recovery when it comes to my own illness and recovery. If you were recovering from surgery and growing impatient with the recovery process, I would tell you to enjoy the slow. The slow is when you don’t have to be anywhere, doing anything. The slow is when you can curl up in a comfy chair with a good book, and not worry about whether or not the laundry is getting done. The slow is when you can go out for a walk and take your good old time about it which gives you a chance to see and enjoy the details in the beauty that nature has to offer.
If we were having coffee, I would ask you if you’re going to watch the Super Bowl this evening. I’m not. M is going to a Super Bowl party, but I’ve elected to stay home. I don’t feel up to it, and frankly, I’m not a fan of football. I don’t think I would have gone even without an excuse to stay home. There are so many other things I’d rather do than watch football.
M offered to stay home, but he does enjoy football so I think he should go and have fun. Hang out with the guys. He can’t watch it here at the ranch because we can’t pick up the television network that’s broadcasting the game.
If we were having coffee, I might tell you about how I am learning to embrace solitude. Ever since I can remember, I have told a story about how I would make the perfect hermit because I enjoy solitude. Little did I know when we moved here that I would be tested to see if what I always thought about myself is the truth. It has taken some time to adjust, but now that I know the difference between being alone and being lonely, solitude and I are becoming friends. Like most things in life, it’s a matter of perception. Besides, I am not alone all the time, and this is hardly a hermit’s life I’m living.
If we were having coffee, I’d probably chatter a lot at first because of all the time I spend alone. Don’t worry. It won’t last long. My words build up, and they usually come rushing out in the first few minutes and then I slow down, becoming my normal listening self once again. In the event that I actually do drink coffee, that makes me chatter, chatter, chatter, too.
If we were having coffee, I’d ask if you want to take a short walk before you go. We could go out to the woods where I would show you the tree that fell down. Friday and Saturday were blustery days, and some of the gusts were strong. I’m surprised more trees didn’t take the plunge towards earth. The one that fell is a loblolly pine, and it was already dead. There are a few of those in the woods. Two are standing near the boardwalk to the dock, and I’ve seen them sway during gusty winds. Someday I’ll walk out there and find them on the ground, too.
If we were having coffee, it might be time for you to go because you probably have other things to do . Thank you so much for stopping by and visiting with me today. I appreciate it. I’d invite you out to the dock to watch the sunset, but I don’t think we’ll see much. The sky is thick with clouds, little spots of blue peeking out here and there. In case you’re wondering, sunset is scheduled for 5:25 PM. It’s warm today so if the clouds do happen to break up, feel free to have a seat on the bench on the dock and enjoy the show.
Be good, be kind, be loving. Just Be. 🙂